Couples’ Work
When a problem/issue arises in your relationship, it's wise to check in with a clinician before things escalate. I understand a healthy relationship is one in which both partners feel safe to share their feelings and thoughts. (*hint, they don’t always have to be positive). Your relationship is my client, and I will remind you of this often. I highly recommend seeking individual therapy when working in relational counseling. I can provide referrals if interested. Learn about more services here.
Attachment Wounds and Past Relationships
How I see it, mostly, everything we do is attached to our Family of Origin (FOO). Usually, partners in a relationship may project issues onto each other – problems that stem from past failed relationships or memories and experiences of their FOO. Understanding past difficulties can also be addressed during couples, so let’s learn to speak, listen, and understand the reason behind the feelings.
Affairs and Infidelity
With infidelity, there is care, passion, hurt, and change. Repairing the relationship after a betrayal is possible. This mending, however, is not without work and process.
Finding who you are as an individual and where you stand in your relationship is also rewarding. Infidelity can be different among partners and can occur for many reasons. We'll get to that – but we'll do it together and see how to assist the relationship best. With this particular need and issue of infidelity, I will walk you through the steps of Emotionally Focused Therapy, an evidence-based theory that guides us in the here and now through the problem, de-escalation, fears, needs, accountability, and finally, integration.
Like the other therapy I provide, I can never give a guarantee or a promise, but I want to normalize this for you; you are not alone. I hold onto the hope for you until you are ready to take it back.
Premarital Counseling & Marriage Counseling
Premarital counseling is also a good place to explore the future goals of the relationship to feel like you have a shared vision of the future. Together, we will explore unhealthy cycles you may fall into and discuss those worries that keep arising. I will help you get out of content and get into connection. If you are already in a long-term commitment or marriage, sometimes you may fall into a pattern that feels difficult to get out of. As a therapist, I can be as direct as you would like when working with couples while also tending to the injuries at play.
Adding a Child
Adding a new addition to the family is a big decision. Sometimes, this is a thought-out process, and sometimes it just happens! Whatever the case or situation, this new addition can alter the existing relationship. With such a change, it’s no wonder caregivers can have a larger sense of worry. I’m here to walk alongside you as we explore all the shifts and changes.